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jaystolar:

After a few weeks off from the epic summer of NYC shows, I’m thrilled to announce my next show at the Mercury Lounge. Mark your calendar and invite everyone you know, because for the first time I will be headlining the Mercury Lounge on a Saturday night. I have much in store for this one :)
Tickets go on sale this Friday Sept 19th:
 http://www.ticketmaster.com/Mercury-Lounge-tickets-New-York/venue/1101

jaystolar:

After a few weeks off from the epic summer of NYC shows, I’m thrilled to announce my next show at the Mercury Lounge. Mark your calendar and invite everyone you know, because for the first time I will be headlining the Mercury Lounge on a Saturday night. I have much in store for this one :)

Tickets go on sale this Friday Sept 19th:

 http://www.ticketmaster.com/Mercury-Lounge-tickets-New-York/venue/1101

Reblogged from lizziegoneastray  129,122 notes

suck-err:

riverplants:

foods dangerous to dogs:

  1. avocadoes
  2. alcohol
  3. raw bread dough
  4. caffeine
  5. chocolate
  6. grapes and raisins
  7. onions and garlic
  8. macadamia nuts
  9. raw salmon
  10. xylitol (artificial sweeteners)

if you have a dog please reblog this

You don’t need to have a dog, everyone just reblog this maybe ok yes

These are not equal in toxicity.  Xylitol is by far the deadliest and most accessible (unless you have raw salmon and raw bread dough in your bag in an ongoing basis, of course)

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Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it. By 4 ignorant delusions people have about feminism (via brutereason)

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assholeofday:

CeeLo Green, Asshole of the Day for September 3, 2014
by TeaPartyCat (Follow @TeaPartyCat)
Last night CeeLo Green was defending himself against accusations of rape and sounded a lot like Todd Akin when he tweeted:

“If someone is passed out they’re not even WITH you consciously. People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!”

“Really been raped” sounds a lot like “legitimate rape”. And I noted that they each had different reasons for narrowing the definition of rape, but they were engaged in the same bullshit. Since tweeting that, CeeLo deleted the tweets, deleted his Twitter, restored his Twitter, and tweeted a short apology. But forced apologies aren’t worth much, and there’s no hint that he really understands why his reasoning is wrong, only that he’s sorry he said it (maybe).
Now Green wasn’t even charged with rape, but the assertion is out there, so he feels he must defend what he’s accused of:

Green’s lawyer argued the two had “consensual relations,” despite the woman’s claim that she woke up in bed next to Green and was unsure of what happened the night before.
Green faced one felony drug charge. Prosecutors’ claim of lack of evidence led to no rape charges being filed, but he was still sentenced to three years of probation, plus 45 days of community service.
The Voice coach also emphasized that he wasn’t admitting guilt by making a no contest plea.

This case and CeeLo’s defense goes to the real heart of many debates about rape these days— guys like CeeLo, along with their defenders over on Fox News, such as George Will, think that it’s not rape unless there’s a very clear no. That is, they aren’t focused on consent, but on protest. But that just ignores all the time that the person is incapacitated or under threat not to protest. The absence of protest is not consent. Consent must be a positive act, and without it, you’re in rape territory.
Amanda Marcotte at Raw Story explained this very well in July under the headline Instead of asking, “Did she say no?”, we should start asking, “Did she want to have sex?”

Here’s a piece I wrote kind of detailing out my problems with that argument, mostly that it’s a strawman and that assuming someone is automatically in a state of consent unless they phrase their refusals just so is not held for any other intimate behavior, such as allowing people in your home or allowing people to watch your children, and just for sex. Which is to say anti-feminists are actually arguing that the barrier for someone barging into your house should be higher than for them barging into your body. (And considering how most of them are anti-abortion, it follows that they believe the barrier for to force someone to have a baby should be lower than to force yourself into their house to sit on their couch.) Which is fucked up, to say the least.
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What if, instead of saying, “Did she say no?” to this young man, the question was, “Did she want to have sex with you?” The answer to that seems screamingly obvious. Far from making things more complicated, framing the question this way would have made things much simpler.
Sure, there will always be men who will whine that it’s so hard to get laid if you have to bother knowing if your partner wants to have sex, too. But so what? If I ran around saying that it’s so hard to get invited to dinner without just walking into people’s houses uninvited, that wouldn’t change the fact that I’m criminally trespassing. If I insisted the only way I get to visit people is by barging into their houses, you’d tell me that it’s my responsibility to learn how to make friends so I get invited. Men who want to have sex should be held to the same minimum standard.

So, just as it’s not OK to rob someone’s house while they are asleep, it’s not OK to violate their person because they are asleep or too sleepy or drunk to put up a fight. But CeeLo thinks there’s a difference between the two, and for that he is the Asshole of the Day.
It is CeeLo Green’s first time as Asshole of the Day, but one of many for saying horrible things about rape.
Full story: Buzzfeed.

assholeofday:

CeeLo Green, Asshole of the Day for September 3, 2014

by TeaPartyCat ()

Last night CeeLo Green was defending himself against accusations of rape and sounded a lot like Todd Akin when he tweeted:

“If someone is passed out they’re not even WITH you consciously. People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!”

“Really been raped” sounds a lot like “legitimate rape”. And I noted that they each had different reasons for narrowing the definition of rape, but they were engaged in the same bullshit. Since tweeting that, CeeLo deleted the tweets, deleted his Twitter, restored his Twitter, and tweeted a short apology. But forced apologies aren’t worth much, and there’s no hint that he really understands why his reasoning is wrong, only that he’s sorry he said it (maybe).

Now Green wasn’t even charged with rape, but the assertion is out there, so he feels he must defend what he’s accused of:

Green’s lawyer argued the two had “consensual relations,” despite the woman’s claim that she woke up in bed next to Green and was unsure of what happened the night before.

Green faced one felony drug charge. Prosecutors’ claim of lack of evidence led to no rape charges being filed, but he was still sentenced to three years of probation, plus 45 days of community service.

The Voice coach also emphasized that he wasn’t admitting guilt by making a no contest plea.

This case and CeeLo’s defense goes to the real heart of many debates about rape these days— guys like CeeLo, along with their defenders over on Fox News, such as George Will, think that it’s not rape unless there’s a very clear no. That is, they aren’t focused on consent, but on protest. But that just ignores all the time that the person is incapacitated or under threat not to protest. The absence of protest is not consent. Consent must be a positive act, and without it, you’re in rape territory.

Amanda Marcotte at Raw Story explained this very well in July under the headline Instead of asking, “Did she say no?”, we should start asking, “Did she want to have sex?”

Here’s a piece I wrote kind of detailing out my problems with that argument, mostly that it’s a strawman and that assuming someone is automatically in a state of consent unless they phrase their refusals just so is not held for any other intimate behavior, such as allowing people in your home or allowing people to watch your children, and just for sex. Which is to say anti-feminists are actually arguing that the barrier for someone barging into your house should be higher than for them barging into your body. (And considering how most of them are anti-abortion, it follows that they believe the barrier for to force someone to have a baby should be lower than to force yourself into their house to sit on their couch.) Which is fucked up, to say the least.

What if, instead of saying, “Did she say no?” to this young man, the question was, “Did she want to have sex with you?” The answer to that seems screamingly obvious. Far from making things more complicated, framing the question this way would have made things much simpler.

Sure, there will always be men who will whine that it’s so hard to get laid if you have to bother knowing if your partner wants to have sex, too. But so what? If I ran around saying that it’s so hard to get invited to dinner without just walking into people’s houses uninvited, that wouldn’t change the fact that I’m criminally trespassing. If I insisted the only way I get to visit people is by barging into their houses, you’d tell me that it’s my responsibility to learn how to make friends so I get invited. Men who want to have sex should be held to the same minimum standard.

So, just as it’s not OK to rob someone’s house while they are asleep, it’s not OK to violate their person because they are asleep or too sleepy or drunk to put up a fight. But CeeLo thinks there’s a difference between the two, and for that he is the Asshole of the Day.

It is CeeLo Green’s first time as Asshole of the Day, but one of many for saying horrible things about rape.

Full story: Buzzfeed.